Single on Valentine’s?

Here are 8 ways to curate long lasting self-love on and after valentines day. Lucky number 8 symbolises harmony and balance, it brings inner strength and determination. Representing infinity, it is also an extremely lucky number.

Galentines is definitely a trending thing right now. Some trends are truly good for us if we allow it to be.

I personally, am not bothered about the day too much. The way I see it, you cannot miss something you never had. Saying that, I love love. I love to give hugs, treat, people well, cook and more.

Love in every form deserves to be celebrated.

Since I do not have a significant other (a man, a bae, a partner) these are things I have done in the past and will be doing this year; and I am pretty excited! Why don’t you join me?

  1. Continuously place yourself in positive spaces. 

Surround yourself with other like-minded single women full of love.

I will be going to a Galentines event on valentine’s day . This is the brain child of Blogger extraordinaire Chloe Pierre

I am pretty excited to immerse myself in a copious supply of feminine energy on valentines day. I suggest you find a similar space for you.  If you would like to attend buy tickets here. I already feel very powerful in my own being. Just imagine how I’m going feel once we all merge the sisterly love. Use this as a way to lift yourself up and forget about your waste man archives.

  1. Date Yourself 

Yes, you that ‘B’ like they say on Instagram. You keep saying this to you friends as a joke. It’s time to take yourself seriously. Yes babe, you!!

I personally do it all the time. Going to the cinema on my own is my personal favourite. You could take yourself to dinner, buy yourself flowers, chocolates or plantain chips. Whatever makes you happy sis.

  1. Listen to your gut feeling – Basically trust yourself more.
  1. Pamper yourself (self-care)

I am not boasting but call me the self-care queen. I am not just talking about my bulk buys of sheet masks from Superdrug. (You can judge me I am shameless in my obsession). I am talking about little things like getting you hair and nails done regularly.

Spa days, creating loving spaces like being around your best friend could pamper your soul. Don’t let the ‘I’m so busy’ keep you from replenishing your soul. (I can expand on more ways to replenish in another post). Comment and let me know.

  1. Buy yourself lingerie

I personally recommend buying lingerie even if you are single. Babe do you know how hot you’re gona look with that cheeky number on? Once you love it the rest will follow. Wear it under your clothes to work. Take a little break from your desk, pop in the loo(toilet). Choose a cubicle with a mirror and flash yourself babe. It’s your little secret to yourself.

Places to get plus size lingerie:

Savage x Fenty, ASOS, Simplybe and Figleaves.

  1. Eat well

Choose foods that nourish your body and make you feel good. Everybody’s feel good and eat well is subjective. I encourage you find out what yours may be.

  1. Talk to yourself loudly

I do this thing where I have little 2-minute conversation in the mirror every morning. I positively overwhelm myself with compliments. Try it when you flash Yourself in the loo (toilet)Try it. Let me know how it goes. Choose a specific time though so you can create a routine.

  1. Take a body empowerment dance class.

Yes! Go crush on yourself.

This is a regular thing for me. So I have been putting in the work honey.

Thecurvecatwalk dance class is soo special to me. Tri has no idea how much it has added to my ‘I am sexy’ confidence. I hope you guys know that their are various levels and types of confidence. What I have learnt is, the term ‘I am working on me’ is such a blanket statement to achieving self love (let me know if you like me to write a  separate blogpost on this).

This class or the class you choose will help you own your body’s sex appeal and presence. If you don’t believe me. Have a look at my latest pictures on my Instagram @tenipascal.


Have you done any of these before? Will you try any of these?

Let me know in the comments below.






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  1. Michaela Roberts
    February 14, 2019 / 9:40 am

    #Shooketh… Pics look amazing, and I think I’m going to do one of the steps today… *coughs* …(Step 5). Well done girl!!!

    • tenipascal
      February 15, 2019 / 5:19 pm

      Thank you so much!!!Which step did you try? how did it make you feel?

  2. Begonia
    February 14, 2019 / 10:00 am

    I love it well done

    • tenipascal
      February 15, 2019 / 5:20 pm

      Thank you soo much . I am happy you love it

  3. Jadakins
    February 14, 2019 / 2:59 pm

    Great blog TT.. piks are FYAAAAAAAAAAA! Looking forward to the next post xxx

    • tenipascal
      February 15, 2019 / 5:33 pm

      Woop woop, thank you so much. I hope you subscribed so that you are notified when I publish my next post.

  4. Aschel S
    February 14, 2019 / 5:26 pm

    Yes I’m about to get my nails done ❤️

    • tenipascal
      February 15, 2019 / 5:31 pm

      How do you feel? what colour did you get?

  5. Tricia Pioche
    February 14, 2019 / 9:32 pm

    Well done sweet, happy valentines day!!!

    • tenipascal
      February 15, 2019 / 5:29 pm

      Thank you fro you support darling.

  6. Nicole Mo
    February 14, 2019 / 11:39 pm

    Ten Ten, this was definately worth the read. Your tips are right up my street. I need to try out lone cinema, lone spa days and the sexy underwear. I love that. I find myself doing a cheeky catwalk in the loos often it would feel so much better with something sexy on lol. I will be looking forward to your next post. I would love to hear your perspective on the I am working on me statement. Something I feel I say often if I lose motivation.

    • tenipascal
      February 15, 2019 / 5:28 pm

      When you do try it , It may feel awkward but liberating at the end. I definitely will write a post on this ‘ I am working on myself’. I feel that it is needed.
      My next post will be scheduled for next next Thursday. So I am going to keep them coming. Thank you again for your wonderful comments.

  7. Kemi Fajoye
    February 15, 2019 / 11:40 am

    Well said Tenish. Loving the blog. X

    • tenipascal
      February 15, 2019 / 5:34 pm

      Thank you sooo much

  8. Nidz
    February 22, 2019 / 10:04 am

    The feeling of self Love is amazing. Loving yourself is on of the best gift to one’s self….. I’m happy to see you in this zone. You go girl! Proud of you…Do it and do it well. Uniquely you, doing what comes Natural to you❤️❤️

    • tenipascal
      February 22, 2019 / 12:11 pm

      aww, I love you

  9. Jah Mirikle
    February 22, 2019 / 2:30 pm

    Showing my support for the cause…..Blessup and heres to higher heights and more success for ur blog and other endevours.

    Fully endorsed!!!

  10. February 27, 2019 / 8:03 pm

    I LOVE THIS TEN. Totally. Such a nice easy read and really sensible.
    The flashing self at work is a must.
    The talking to self in mirror routine – now that’s my Homework.

    Pedicure and Manicure on the way!!!

    • tenipascal
      February 27, 2019 / 9:31 pm

      Get It girl!!! let me know how you feel.

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